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"Monks, whoever develops & pursues mindfulness immersed in the body encompasses whatever skillful qualities are on the side of clear knowing." MN 119 The Buddha.
In this lesson we will cover how to set up a daily meditation practice and the different postures that you can use for meditation. We will then learn how to develop the meditative skills of grounding and softening to develop deep calm and tranquility as a foundation for mindfulness of breathing.
Meditation Type: Vipassana (insight), Softening (relaxation, letting go, calm)
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Your first goal is towards developing a habit of meditating daily. Yes, that's right, the desire to meditate is a healthy habit that can and should be developed.
At first you may find that your mind throws up all sorts of reasons why you should miss today's meditation: Too busy, too tired, too...., don't believe it. This is just your old habits talking to you.
If you want to change your life you need to go against these urges. As the Buddha said: "Swim against the stream", the current of habits, the current of old patterns.
For positive change to happen you need to start mimicking the life you want to live, now.
Start by setting a regular time for your daily meditation, something that is achievable, and committing to it. Once committed to a specific time, stick to it; be careful of giving your mind mixed messages here.
It is also helpful to have a regular place for meditating, the corner of a room, a quiet chair, your car, somewhere you won't be disturbed by worldly concerns. You can add a blanket, a statue, some candles to create an atmosphere.
It is important to recognise that your meditation is not always going to be enjoyable. Some meditations feel comfortable, others don't.
Since the techniques that are used in meditation challenge habits of the mind, and your body is adjusting to sitting still, some meditations will feel uncomfortable. This is a normal part of any exercise routine, be it physical or mental, especially in the beginning.
Committing to the time you have set for your meditation, regardless of how it feels, develops resilience, determination and understanding about yourself that will lead to life changing insight.
It also creates a feeling of achievement and trust in your own ability. It is this commitment rather than how good you think the meditation is, that will start to change the behaviour of your mind.
In each of the below Meditation Skills there is a guided meditation provided. it is helpful to use it a number of times to give you a feel of the rhythm and pace of this meditation. Combine the recorded guidance with the written instructions below, and your own experience to develop skill.
Once you are confident you can stop using the recording and meditate under your own guidance. This has the added benefit of cultivating mindfulness and curiosity.
Always try to find the subtle pleasure in your meditation, how nice it is to relax, the pleasure of abandonment, its sense of ease.
A basic understanding of the correct posture for meditation is important.
When sitting on a chair to meditate, it is ok in the beginning to lean against the back rest. Make sure that your buttock is all the way back in the chair or else you may slump in your lower spine causing you to feel discomfort and sleepiness.
Once seated, un-round your shoulders by bringing them forward, raising them up, bringing them back and then dropping them down. Also tuck your chin under slightly, extending the crown of your head towards the ceiling to balance your head on your neck.
Once your meditation practice develops it is helpful to start introducing more discipline within your meditation posture. This can be done by sitting towards the front of the chair and slightly rotating the top of your hips forward. Forearms and hands can then sit gently on your legs, creating a balance point.
When sitting on the floor it is important to take a posture that keeps your back straight and that you can maintain for a period of time without moving. Sitting flat on the floor requires a lot of flexibility in your hips.
You can test this now by sitting flat on the floor.
If your knees have trouble touching the ground while your back is straight, then you should consider using different props to help with your posture. Props such as a firm cushion under your buttocks help to raise your hips off the ground, changing the angle of your legs. This lowers the amount flexibility needed in your hips for the posture.
When sitting on the floor I recommend trying the Burmese meditation posture. Sit down, on a cushion if needed, and fold one leg into your body so that the sole of the foot is facing the inside thigh of the other leg. Next fold the other leg in front of it.
In this way the legs are folded next to each other but not on top of each other. This prevents the pain and numbness that comes from the pressure of one limb pressing against the other.
If this is still difficult you can try a kneeling position on the floor with a rolled blanket or cushion between your legs with your legs folded back, under you.
If this still isn't comfortable then go easy on yourself, get to know your body and what it can and can't do. Accept it; and then work with what you have. There are other postures just as good, like a chair or lying down on the floor.
When lying on the floor use a yoga mat or blanket plus a pillow if needed. If you have back trouble, slightly bend your knees and place a bolster or rolled blanket under them to protect your back.
To keep alertness so that you don't fall asleep, place your arms by your sides with palms facing upwards. If you have back or neck issues you can also lay on your side in the CPR recovery position (on your side).
If there is no other option meditation can also be done lying on a bed but there is a higher risk of you falling asleep. You can prop your body upright by using pillows behind you back and head, a rolled blanket under your knees to protect your lower back.
When meditating in a bed it is important to focus on proper support or else your body may slump and fall to the side as you relax. With practice an MIDL meditator can meditate lying on a bed while staying fully alert. In the beginning however this is difficult.
Grounding is the skill of immersing awareness within your body to withdraw it from the habitual patterns of your mind.
Withdrawing awareness from the mind stream creates space around thoughts, feelings, emotions and reactions allowing you to mindfully self-observe to develop insight into their autonomous nature (anatta).
Grounding of awareness is developed by gently softening/relaxing it into the sensate quality of your body, until your body becomes as if self-aware.
This means you have a felt sense of being aware of the world through your body, rather than through your intellectual mind. More simply: you live through your heart rather than your head.
Once awareness is immersed within your body during meditation there are great benefits. First you will find that softening of awareness into your body (grounding) naturally establishes mindfulness.
This in itself is a great benefit because without mindfulness, the ability for you to self-observe, how can you develop any understanding of yourself?
Grounding of awareness within your body creates a reference point from which habitual movements of your attention can be observed (Flexible Attention). If your mind is wandering during meditation (and daily life) how can you know unless you have a reference point?
The best reference point that you can create is being very aware of your body because your body is always here and now, your mind however may shift towards thoughts of past and future.
Grounding of awareness within your body will also increase your sensitivity to the various sensations within your body, allowing you to observe your mind through changes within these bodily sensations.
Sensitivity to sensations within our body frees us from becoming lost within habitual patterns of behaviour because it also establishes mindfulness.
Softening is the meditative skill of abandoning effort, of letting go. Softening is expressed as the relaxing any underlying effort while tuning into the subtle pleasure of each release.
Softening is pleasurable and should always be so. Softening also creates the conditions for the meditative qualities of mindfulness, joy and tranquility to establish.
The word softening is derived from observing the transformation of the mental tightness, heaviness, rigidity that comes from resistance; into the softness, lightness, pliability that comes from acceptance.
When are we told to let go the question that arises is "how?" Softening answers this question.
Softening is a pleasurable activity and as the name suggests it is deeply relaxing and enjoyable.
Softening is experienced during meditation as the subtle pleasure that is felt whenever we relax effort within our body, and the joyful happiness and contentment that is felt whenever we let go of the effort 'to do' within our mind.
Softening is the doorway to the subtle pleasure that is available with the release of effort.
It is the pleasure of letting go, renouncing desire for sensoury engagement that creates the conditions for the Enlightenment Factor of meditative joy to arise.
During your development of skill in MIDL you will learn to tune into the frequency of the subtle pleasure of putting things down.
Relaxing effort in your body, relaxing effort in your breathing, calming effort within your mind.
The pleasure of having nowhere to go, no-one to be, just simple time with yourself. The pleasure of putting down your worries and concerns regarding the world.
Whenever you soften the desire to do anything you have opened the doorway to the subtle meditative pleasure that comes with letting go, abandoning of effort.
As a meditator your curiosity should be towards what it means to access the pleasure of letting go.
The subtle pleasure of letting go, of abandoning of effort is available whenever you put anything down. When you relax effort within your body, put down interest in thoughts, release the desire for gain or loss, this subtle meditative pleasure is always available to you.
Like carrying a heavy rock around with you every day that you think might come in handy, and then being told that you no longer need to carry that heavy burden. Casting it to one side, releasing it, letting it go.
Ahh, I don't have to carry this around anymore.
The relief. The lightness. The pleasure of it. The sense of ease. Freedom.
The whole path rests on softening and the pleasure of softening, abandoning, letting go.
Your First Meditation
Now that you have a basic understanding of grounding and softening it is time to develop these as lived experience by practicing the four Meditation Skills found within Mastery 1.
Simple Instructions
During this meditation be aware of the sensate experience of your body as it sits: warmth, coolness, heaviness, pressure, touch etc. and observe anytime your attention habitually wanders away from it.
This guided meditation is also available on Insight Meditation Timer App.
During your first Meditation Skill you will learn how to ground your awareness within different sensations to create a reference point from which to develop mindfulness and insight.
The word sensations refer to the simple experience of your body as you sit in meditation such as warmth, coolness, heaviness, pressure etc. The word grounding means to be continuously aware of these simple experience of these sensations until your awareness naturally rests within them.
I recommend meditating for 30 minutes per day to experience results.
At this stage of meditation, you are working with mental habits that are related to stress and anxiety. To change the way that your mind works it is necessary to commit to the daily mental exercises provided in this meditation towards being aware of your body and relaxing.
Preparation:
Be aware of the room around you:
Be aware of sensations within your body:
Be aware of the touch of your thumbs:
Be aware of all three together:
Meditation hindrances are mental habits that we bring to meditation that hinder the development of attention (samadhi), such as restlessness, dullness, thinking, fear of giving up control etc.
Developing understanding of all 16 Meditative Hindrances and how to calm them not only cultivates insight but also weakens the hindrances themselves. In this way insight into the calming and uprooting of these tendencies from the mind creates the meditation path.
Meditative Hindrance: Restlessness + sleepiness due to Stress (1) or anxiety.
When you begin meditation, you bring any stress that has built up in day-to-day life with you. It may make you feel restless or sleepy leading to frustration. It is important of understand that this is a normal part of learning to relax during meditation and will pass with regular meditation.
Antidote: Curiosity + Meditation Skill: Retrain Your Breathing Patterns (next meditation).
Curiosity in regard to what it means to relax + retraining your breathing patterns using the Meditation Skill below will lower your stress levels.
You are ready to progress to Meditation Skill 02: Cultivate Skill in Softening when you feel comfortable being aware of different sensations within your body and have an understanding of what it means to observe when your attention wanders away from them.
Added Note
It is important to note that at this early stage this does not need to be a perfection. You will in the coming lessons develop skills that will help you settle your mind and any feelings of restlessness or sleepiness. For now, it is most important that you develop a sense of how being aware of different sensations within your body can be used to cultivate your skill in attention and to develop insight into the nature of your mind.
Stress & Anxiety
If you have come to meditation due to stress & anxiety it is beneficial for you to practice the below Support Meditation Skill: Retrain Your Breathing Patterns before moving onto Meditation Skill 02.
The symptoms of stress and anxiety can be lowered by teaching your body to naturally diaphragmatically breathe throughout the day by practicing this meditation daily.
This guided meditation is available on Insight Timer meditation app.
When we are stressed or anxious, the way that our body breathes changes. Over time stress breathing in the upper chest can become natural for us. Retraining diaphragmatic breathing increases health and lowers stress, anxiety and hypervigilance
If you experience stress or anxiety, retraining your breathing patterns to diaphragmatic breathing may be helpful. Retraining your breathing patterns offers three benefits:
***If unsure, check with your doctor before doing this training***
I recommend doing this meditation to retrain stress breathing patterns to lower the experience of anxiety 1 - 2 times per day over 3 - 4 weeks or until you notice that you naturally breathe in your lower belly and not in your chest.
Preparation:
Start by lying on the floor. Use a pillow under your head and a rolled blanket under your knees if needed. Place both your palms just below your belly button, fingers touching in the middle, pressing slightly inwards.
First stage of meditation:
Second stage of meditation:
Third stage of meditation:
You are ready to progress to Meditation Skill 02: Cultivate Skill in Softening when your diaphragm can be felt moving in your belly by itself for a period of time after each meditation session.
Added Note
Your diaphragm will now act as a barometer for you to observe whenever you are resisting anything throughout the day, because when you do, your breathing patterns will change to chest breathing (stress). Meditation Skill 02 & 03 will teach you how to soften this resistance in a way that switches off this stress response and re-engages autonomous diaphragmatic breathing.
During this meditation you will develop the skill of using slow diaphragmatic breathing to bring deep relaxation to your body, and calm to your mind as a prerequisite for the MIDL Skill of softening.
This guided meditation is also available on Insight Timer meditation app.
Your development of skill in softening continues by learning to feel and 'borrow' the natural relaxation that arises within your body when you let go of all effort with each out-breath.
The word 'borrow' means to align your awareness with the subtle pleasure of the relaxation of each out-breath, and to borrow it in the same way that you would borrow the momentum when pushing a swing in a park.
Just as you align your momentum with the momentum of the swing when pushing it to borrow that momentum; you align your awareness with the subtle pleasure of the relaxation of your body with each out-breath, to borrow the subtle pleasure of each relaxation.
Tuning into the subtle pleasure available in each abandoning of effort, letting go, both in the body and the mind, is the key.
I recommend meditating for 30 min, 1-2 times daily, depending on your life situation.
Preparation:
Slowly Breathe with Your Lower Abdomen:
(10 Repetitions)
Next, Bring the Breath up Into Your Chest:
(Repeat 10 times with previous step)
Allow Your Breathing to Calm Naturally:
(15 minutes)
Physical restlessness can arise during meditation because of overstimulation throughout the day, too much effort during the meditation session, or aversion towards physical discomfort. Any excess effort/energy and can be calmed by relaxing into that effort/energy in order to withdraw the fuel. This allows the 'restless fire' to burn itself out.
Meditative Hindrance: Physical Restlessness (2): unable to experience physical comfort during meditation with a strong urge to move or to end the meditation session early.
Antidote: Curiosity + Meditation Skill 02.
You are ready to progress to Meditation Skill 03: Cultivate Skill in Softening Into when you no longer experience physical restless during meditation.
Added Note
It is important to note that these meditation skills are concerned with learning to relax, not cultivating your attention and as such wandering of attention, falling asleep and becoming completely lost of normal at this stage.
It is best to learn to gently be with any out-of-controll-ness of your attention at this stage and to use it to observe the anatta (autonomous, not-self nature - happening 'by itself') of your mind.
Your ability to relax physically, not mentally is most important during this Meditation Skill.
During this meditation you will develop skill in borrowing the natural abandoning of effort that occurs with the deflation of each out-breath, allowing the pleasure of it to enter your mind.
This guided meditation is also available on Insight Timer meditation app.
You bring your softening skill to the next level by accessing the subtle pleasure that arises as your body relaxes and bringing it into your mind. This is the beginning of cultivating pleasure of letting go, abandoning effort, in order to develop 'mindful non-participation'.
Mindful non-participation is a structure of attention that neither grasps onto nor pushes away any experience.
By allowing yourself to mentally relax with the deflation of each out-breath, a naturally tendency towards letting go will be trained within your mind. As letting go grows, stillness will arise.
Your ability to soften will allow you to be with difficult experiences without reacting to them during mindfulness of breathing and in daily life.
It is important when softening to tune into the subtle pleasure that arises both in your body and mind with each letting go, abandoning of effort. Gently smiling into this pleasure with your eyes will allow it to enter and grow within your mind as meditative joy.
I recommend meditating for 30 min, 1-2 times daily, depending on your life situation.
Preparation:
Breathe from Your Belly into Your Chest:
Physically Relax with each Deflation:
(Repeat 10 times with previous step)
Mentally Relax with each Deflation:
(Repeat 10 times with previous steps)
Allow Your Breathing to Calm Naturally:
(15 minutes)
Mental restlessness can arise during meditation because of overstimulation throughout the day, just like physical restlessness. It also arises during meditation due to putting in too much effort into what you are doing. Any excess effort/energy and can be calmed by relaxing into that effort/energy in order to withdraw the fuel. This allows the 'restless fire' to burn itself out.
Meditative Hindrance: Mental Restlessness (3): unable to experience mental comfort during meditation with the attention wandering all over the place.
Antidote: Curiosity + Meditation Skill 03.
You are ready to progress to TIER 1 of Mindfulness of Breathing when you understand how to access deep physical and mental relaxation during your meditation session by softening physical and mental effort.
Added Note
It is important to note that you will still experience thinking, mind wandering and forgetting at this stage. Your focus while developing skill in softening is towards letting go of all effort.
Any imbalances within your attention will be addressed in TIER 1 & 2 of Mindfulness of Breathing. These do not need to be overcome to progress at this stage.
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